Video chat can feel more vulnerable for shy people because you can actually see each other.
You might find it a little trickier to talk about sex when you’re looking each other in the face.
Send each other little messages throughout the day, teasing each other until the next time you’re able to speak or see each other in person.
For example, “I can’t wait to tell you about this hot dream I had about you last night.
Q: My boyfriend is moving to another state for a job opportunity that’s too good to turn down.
We’re hoping it will be temporary (maybe only a year).
You get to hear your boyfriend’s responses in real time, which makes it feel less isolating.
Plus it frees up your hands to do other things in the moment!
Make sure to put a note saying “Private” or “For later” in the subject so he doesn’t open it at an inopportune time.
Texts and emails are a great way to build anticipation.
That time we were on vacation in Mexico, and we started making out in the jacuzzi? ” Prod him along by asking questions like, “do you remember what happened next?
” Rehashing old memories is nice because you don’t have to make anything up or feel put on the spot.
We’ve had a good sex life thus far, but I’m apprehensive about how the switch to long distance will affect our sex life. It’s jarring to go from seeing each other regularly to relying on technology for the vast majority of your interactions.