However much he would like to wrap his alluring hands around your body, there is one thing preventing him from doing what men usually do in such cases: ask for a date. His medical license or, more to the point, his desire to keep it.
State medical boards generally take a dim view of doctors becoming romantically involved with their patients.
I met those patients in the ER, so they were minutes away from being ex-patients. You don't know how much your surgeon knows about the ethical guidelines governing physician-patient romance. Your surgeon may be as uninformed as I was about this topic, so you cannot assume that he will make the first overt move if his seeming affection is real. However, if you wish to maximize your chance of success, there is something that you must do.
In retrospect, I probably could have called them or sent a note afterward, but instead I chose the safer alternative and went back to playing with my transistors, diodes, integrated circuits, capacitors, inductors, resistors, and other gizmos. For heaven's sake, I graduated in the top 1% of my class in medical school and could tell you things about parts of your body you don't even know you have, yet I didn't know the first thing about something that mattered much more to me: if a woman who looked like a Swedish model basically threw herself at me and hugged me for the better part of an hour (it really happened; I recounted this story in ) . One important preface or addendum will make him much more likely to say yes.
I really feel there is a mutual chemistry there, but am afraid to say or do anything about it.
I am trying to find a way to let him know I am open to a personal relationship after the doctor-patient relationship ends.
I will really miss the opportunity to chat with him.
He is a genius and I could listen to him for hours.
Maybe I should just put this aside and assume if he is interested and available that he will find a time and a way to approach me? Your surgeon was initially aloof, brief, and arrogant—in other words, a typical surgeon. However, it takes a man less than a second to determine if a woman is attractive.
Or should I give him a parting thank-you note when I am released, that suggests I am open to being friends after the doctor-patient relationship ends? Transference is the psychoanalytic process by which emotions originally associated with one person are unconsciously shifted to another person, especially to the analyst or, according to your overly analytical friend, the surgeon. Genuinely nice people tend to gravitate toward pediatrics or family practice, not surgery. Surely the surgeon realized that the first time he walked into your room.
I find him very attractive and I am fairly certain he is spending considerably more time with me than his other patients. One need not invoke such a deep explanation for your response, which, as I see it, is simply the basic human tendency to like people who are kind and take the time to express genuine interest in others. Offhand, I cannot think of any surgeons I know who have captivating personalities. Men generally do not waste any time cozying up to beautiful women.