Although being caucasian myself, I grew up around a great deal of Chinese women in my own native country and even though I have spent the last eight years living in mainland China I am still surprised at how many Chinese women born in America and Canada still retain a certain amount of cultural conditioning that affects their dating choices similar to mainland Chinese, and this also affects the kind of men they are attracted to.
I get quite a few emails from guys dating Chinese women in America and Canada, and one of their biggest fears, apart from how to attract her, is that they will make a mistake in the dating process and really mess up their chances.
The importance of family, honor, and hard work are reflected in all aspects of life, including romantic relationships and dating.
As a first generation Chinese American, I grew up in the San Francisco Bay Area, a major hub for multitudes of Asians and Asian Americans.
The Parental Influence Like many Chinese parents, mine only expected the best – the best grades, the best schools, the best jobs, and the best husband who shared those same qualities.
As such, I always feared the chance of disapproval when my love interests deviated from that of dating the ideal Chinese doctor.
Dating another Chinese American would be familiar – not just to myself, but for both families.
There are many levels of language barriers in the Chinese community, where many first generation Chinese Americans have parents who speak little to no English at all.
Where family is of utmost importance, finding someone who can communicate with them is a huge factor to consider in the dating world.
Interracial Dating Although dating a nice Chinese doctor may be at the top of my parents’ wishes, dating people from other cultures and backgrounds is not out of the realm of possibility.
I had always understood certain facets of everyday life as norms since most of my peers were like me and grew up in households like mine.