When you ask backpackers in Jalan Jaksa about the girls they sleep with, they will often tell you girls who are dating older men.
Once again, you will have to be careful to respect her right to be young and to party/go out/etc.
Even if she is not that religious, chances are her family is, and they will not tolerate anything but a Muslim wedding.
If you find yourself in this kind of situation, I think you need to convince your girlfriend that the best you can do is "fake" the conversion to become Muslim in order to look good in front of her family, but keep your own religion without telling people except her.
Dating older men for an Indonesian girl is not necessarily seen as a bad thing, because older men are deemed more adequate to provide girls with the security they need.
Yet, the age difference may also be a difficulty because it adds to the incomprehension between the two partners.
It may not be a problem at the beginning, but soon, some issues will appear: Who needs to pay for the restaurant?
For the plane ticket to Bali when you go on holidays?If you find out she is lying to you, do not tolerate it and walk away from the relationship.- Control yourself: Adapt your lifestyle too and try to spend less than usual.The situation faced by many expats is that they don't mind paying, because they understand that the girl cannot afford some expenses that are clearly part of the "expat lifestyle".However, they do not want to be considered as cash cows or walking ATMs.How do you arrange her coming to your home country?