New lovers vary on how willing and able they are to cope with your grief over losing your partner.
Of course you should not make your decisions based on what others would think or feel.
But it is important to honestly assess your affair and think about whether this relationship could stand this kind of stress.
Imagine you or your partner has to go on a lot of out of town business trips some years into the relationship during a time when you are struggling with conflict. There is also the issue of not having the support of family and friends.
Having long-term successful relationships are difficult enough without trying to do them in a vacuum.
Succumbing to the fantasy that the new relationship will be free of conflict or other emotional difficulties can be a setup for another failed relationship.
We tend to repeat patterns over and over until we come to understand ourselves.Feeling torn between two lovers can be an agonizing experience.Besides the guilt, and fear of discovery, you also know that sooner or later you will have to lose someone you love or have loved.Rebound and affair relationships frequently have rescue fantasies attached to them, these fantasies can be overpowering and cloud your vision.Sometimes relationships that start as affairs serve as an escape from difficult interpersonal dynamics in the primary relationship.Acceptance is usually won over eventually, but it can take a long time.